How to write a personal poem – step by step

Whatever the result, remember: the important thing is to try. Take it one step at a time. Heartfelt words are almost always treasured by the person who receives them.

Writing a poem for someone you care about can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be hard. You don’t need to be an experienced writer—the only requirement is sincerity. Follow this step-by-step guide to craft a poem that moves, surprises, or makes the whole room laugh.

🎯 1. Think about who you’re writing for

Start with a few simple questions:

• Who is the poem for?

• What kind of relationship do you have?

• What’s the occasion?

• Should the poem be funny, touching, honest, nostalgic—or a mix?

📝 2. Gather keywords and memories

Make a list of little details, moments, and fun facts:

• Nicknames or inside jokes

• Catchphrases or quirks

• Favourite food, hobbies, work, style, habits

• A funny story or “blooper” from way back

The more personal, the better.

🧱 3. Build the poem

You don’t need an epic. Three to six verses are plenty. Here’s a simple structure:

1. Introduction – Set the scene. Who is the poem about and what’s the occasion?
2. Body – Share stories, memories, and descriptions. Keep it personal.
3. Ending – Tug the heartstrings or land a punchline.

✒️ 4. To rhyme or not to rhyme?

Rhyme if it feels natural, but don’t force it. Flow and feeling matter more. Here are two verses—one with rhyme, one without. Both do the job.

With rhyme

You smile so wide and laugh with style,

you calm the storm for quite a while.

We love you dearly, through and through—

a radiant soul, a heart so true.

Without rhyme

You have a knack for soothing the room,

making everyone breathe a little easier.

Maybe it’s your smile.

Maybe it’s because you never forget my birthday.

💡 Extra tips

• Read the poem aloud while you write—it helps you hear the rhythm.
• A little silliness never hurts, especially if it suits the person.
• Don’t be afraid to be sentimental. That’s what makes it meaningful.

👋 Need a helping hand?

Want to write it yourself but need a push? I create bespoke poems and songs, and I can coach you through your own drafts—whether it’s for a confirmation, milestone birthday, or wedding speech.

Send me a few keywords and we’ll find the right words together. 🎶